Sometimes when a toddler hits it's experimental. That will subside.
Toddlers are young and keen explorers. They experiment night and day—that’s how they learn how things work. It’s how they build their up their knowlwdge of understanding about their parents, their playmates, and how the world around them works.
So, news just in, toddlers hit. It's one thing almost every toddler will experiment with.
If it’s your child’s first or second or third hit, you need to take notice and address it.
It’s natural to feel upset if your child hurts you or someone else but if you react calmly and constructively now, it’s the first step towards encouraging positive behaviour in the future.
The thing to do is to gently, calmly move their arm away from the person they are hitting, so they can’t hit again and give them a firm command, ‘STOP! We don’t use our hands for hitting. You need to use your words. I can see you are angry/cross for not having what you want but you mustn’t hit!’
Watch your tone of voice, body language and mean what you say.
Be confident. Be clear.
Notice the triggers for the behaviour.
Have they had a toy taken away by a playmate? Have you said ‘No’ to a biscuit before breakfast?
For toddlers, a clear, verbal response to hitting is important. It’s also good to let toddlers know how you feel. For example, you can say, ‘No hitting. Hurting hurts Mummy’.
Your next steps depend on the reasons for your child’s behaviour. When you understand the reasons, you can respond in a way that helps your child learn more appropriate ways to behave.
If your child keeps hitting, biting, pinching or hair-pulling, try to be consistent in the way you respond. This will help your child learn about appropriate behaviour.
Work out what’s their frustration and either pre-empt it or use the opportunity to ‘talk and teach’ your toddler better and more acceptable ways to handle the situation.
Always look at what’s beneath the behaviour and see it as an opportunity to guide and teach them better ways to behave.
If the behaviour is about getting your attention, taking your attention away from your child sends them a very powerful message about how you’re feeling. For example, you can turn away or move away from your child.